Wednesday, June 1, 2011

I lied... SURPRISE!

The last five posts I made were for my Writing class project on my family. For those of you that read it, you'll remember I wrote about becoming an aunt (x4) and why I love being an aunt. I said at the end of one of the posts that "I am quite confident there will be no more babies for a while so for now I'll treasure the moments I have with Simeon, Esther, Eden, and Kaloyana, etc." or something like that. 


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I LIED

:)

I learned just a few days after that post that my sister, Deanna, is pregnant with her 4th child!!! Words cannot even describe the sense of joy I have. To know that a new life will be joining our family (AGAIN!) is beyond anything I dreamed possible. 

To be honest, and as I've previously mentioned in other posts, God's timing is always perfect so I really shouldn't be surprised. God knew this little one would be created before we did. He obviously wants to bless us...

...And blessed we are :)

Monday, May 23, 2011

The youngest of 6/The only one left

Well, as you’ve already read, there are six kids in my family. I’m the youngest. When I was little, I hated being the youngest. When you’re the youngest, you seem to be the easiest target. Now, I’m not saying I got picked on all the time. My siblings loved me, and the feeling was mutual. But, I’ll admit, there were times when I hated being the youngest. Obviously, it was harder to stand up for myself. I was usually the kid who went running to Mommy or Daddy. However, as people get older, grow up, and mature, you realize as a kid, you were stupid. You made stupid mistakes and wish you could change some things. I’ve now learned to live without regrets.

One thing that comes with growing up is change: everybody and everything changes. With change comes responsibility, opportunity, and life. One by one, over the years, my siblings have all changed and begun to live their own lives. Deanna moved out when I was only five years old. I mean, with there being 17 and a half years between us, obviously, we were at different points in our lives. To be honest, it was almost like Dee was a 2nd mom to me.

When I was 10, Tyler decided it was time for him to spread his wings and he left the nest to follow Deanna to Winnipeg. Shortly after, off went Jordan to Fredericton.

Suddenly, we were down to three kids left at home. When I was 12 or 13, Courtney headed to Winnipeg, and then back here, and then to Fredericton. When she became engaged, she came back here in order to plan her wedding. Eventually, however, her heart stayed in Fredericton and she returned to continue planning. Now, of course, she’s in Connecticut.

We were down to two: Maddie and I. It was just the two of us and we learned how to take care of each other. In March 2011 (just a few short months ago), Maddie decided it was time for her and she moved to Halifax to be 1)closer to her boyfriend, Nathan and 2)to find her own way in the world.

And then there was one. At first, being the only kid left was really really weird. Over the months since she left, I’ve learned to accept it. Of course, it took some getting used to but now I’m okay. Sometimes, I really want her back and I hate being an only child but I know that change comes. Everyone and everything changes at some point; and people have to be free to lead their own life. I know my time will come soon and then it will just be my parents but no matter how far away we go, our parents and our home will always be the one thing everyone dreams of:


A place filled with love


Why I love being an aunt

Since I’ve already posted about becoming an aunt, I figured I should have some continuity and talk about why I love being an aunt and what makes it so special. There are many things about it that I love but Simeon, Esther, Eden and Kaloyana make each and every moment mean something. It could just be kissing their hands and knees when they fall on the rocks in our driveway or having them come up to me, give me a great big hug, and say, “We love you, Auntie Emma.” Since they all live far away, every time I see them makes it worth the time apart because our reunion is all the more exciting.



When they are here visiting, one of my favorite things I love doing with them is taking them to Dairy Queen (where I work) and buying them a treat. I remember one day, summer 2010, my dad and I took Simeon and Esther to have a sundae. As we were eating, Simeon was excited to be eating ice cream and was swinging his arms up and down, being the goofy-sort that he is. While in the process of swinging his arms, he accidentally hit his funny bone on the table and the look of excitement on his face changed to a look of pain. I quickly ran around the table and knelt down beside him.
“Oh Sim! Did you hit your funny bone?”
I remember him nodding his head. He kept his head bowed and then, after a minute, looked up at me. What I saw almost broke my heart. My sweet, innocent little nephew looked at me with tears flooding his eyes and said, “Yes. But Auntie Emma, it’s not very funny.”
I gave him a hug and held him for a minute. He soon saw the humor in the situation and was, once again, able to laugh and enjoy his ice cream.


During that same visit, I was playing on the rocks in our driveway with Esther. She was picking up rocks and making a pile (a castle, if I remember correctly ☺). I turned my back for a minute to grab a particularly interesting rock and, two seconds after I turned around, Esther began screaming. I whipped back around to find her sprawled out on the rocks on her tummy and her hands cut and bloody. I quickly sat down beside her and pulled her into my lap, holding her hand against my chest, as I tried to soothe the sobs that were shaking her little body. As she had been walking to pick up a rock, her sandal had caught on a stick, causing her to trip and fall on her tummy. I told her everything was going to be okay, picked her up, took her inside to the bathroom, and began to wash her hands clean. After I had her cleaned up and had stuck a band-aid on her cut, I kissed her hands better and we went back outside to finish our castle.


One of the harder things about living so far away from my nieces and nephew is that I rarely get to see them. Don’t get me wrong, I am extremely blessed for all the times I have seen them but I feel as though I have missed some important moments in their lives. As I’ve already said, my niece Eden was born in June 2010. Since she lives in Connecticut, I, sadly, didn’t get to meet her until she was almost six months old. I remember the exact moment, though, when I did meet her. My brother-in-law, Jeremiah, and sister, Courtney, and little Eden arrived at our house around one o’clock in the morning on a cold winter night. It was just a few weeks before Christmas and I was sad that Eden was sleeping because it meant I didn’t get to hug her. I knew I could wait until morning but it definitely was disappointing.

We all went to bed really late because we visited with Court and Jer for a couple of hours. When we all went to bed, I fell asleep right away. What seemed like only a few minutes later, I was gently shaken by Court explaining that she couldn’t get the t.v. working. I stumbled downstairs, half asleep, to find Eden sitting in her Bumbo chair, watching PraiseBaby. After fixing the t.v., I told Courtney to go back to bed because I wouldn’t be able to go back to sleep. And that’s when I met my niece. We sat on the floor together, watching her movie. I remember laying my head beside her, desperately hoping to make a connection with this little girl that I loved so much, without scaring her. I succeeded. She placed her hand on my cheek and we watched the whole movie like that.


About two weeks prior to Eden’s visit, my sister, Deanna, had to come home on a whirl-wind flight from Winnipeg for our great-grandmother’s funeral. Since my niece, Kaloyana, was only a few months old, she had to come too. She ended up being the shining light of hope in all our lives as we walked through a difficult time.
One of my favorite memories that I have with her is actually when Dee stepped off the plane. She had Kaloyana all wrapped up and her hat was pulled over her eyes. As Deanna adjusted the hat, Kaloyana looked at us with sparkles in her beautiful, shiny eyes and, just looked at Maddie and I. However, as soon as my dad stepped into her view, looked at her, and said, “Hello Kaloyana!” in his special voice he only uses to talk to his grandchildren, she gave him a smile that just about split her little face in two.
I think it was at that moment that I somehow knew Kaloyana was going to be a help at the funeral. I realized that, although Nanny Walsh passed on, her amazing legacy of 13 children, 28 grandchildren, 53 great-grandchildren, and 4 great-great-grandchildren would live on and she would always be remembered.  

Becoming an aunt (x4)

I became an aunt for the first time when I was only nine years old. We got a call from my sister, Deanna telling us she was pregnant. I remember my mom sitting on our couch, crying, and I just knew she was pregnant. My mom didn’t even have to tell me, I knew. I began screaming although, to be honest, I really didn’t know why. I had no understanding of why I was so excited. I just knew I was.


Six months later, Simeon Daniel Momtchilov joined our world and our family. The call came late at night, around one o’clock in the morning. Deyan just couldn’t stop yelling, “I have a son! I have a son!” He was pretty excited. We all were!



Two years later, Esther Iova Momtchilov made Simeon a big brother and joined our family as well. When Esther came into the world, we were at church and got the call while my parents and our pastors were in prayer, praying for a safe and fast arrival of the baby. Suddenly, the phone rang and we got the news that I had a baby niece. I savored the feeling I had when I got the news because we all figured it would be many years until another baby joined our family. Little did we know....


When Courtney and Jeremiah were married in June 2009, we knew they would want to wait a while before having children, since the process for them to get married took so long. However, just three short months after the wedding, we got a call from Courtney that threw us up into the clouds. She was pregnant! Seven months later, Eden Soleil Miller joined us, just one day after Courtney and Jeremiah’s first anniversary. We all learned something important... God’s timing is always perfect.


On Christmas Eve 2009, four months after we learned of Courtney’s pregnancy, Deanna called us with the news that she was expecting her third child! Two of my sisters pregnant at the same time!!!!! My mother (and the rest of our family) was over the moon at this news! Two months after Eden was born, we were blessed with the birth of Kaloyana Walsh in August 2010. Again, we were shown of the perfect timing of God since my mother and grandmother were there for the birth and she was born on my grandmother’s birthday.

We are now quite positive that there will be no more pregnancies or babies for a while, but there will be more eventually. For now, I (and my family) do and will continue to treasure my rockin’ 7 year old nephew, Simeon, my spunky 5 year old niece, Esther, my special 11 month old “little ray of soleil”, Eden, and my beautiful 9 month old little princess, Kaloyana.    

A family of 8

When I tell people that I’m from a family of six kids, they look at me like I have two heads. In our society today, the average family consists of two or three kids and the parents, or guardians, or what-have-you. Even though growing up with a bigger family had its ups and downs, I wouldn’t change my life for the world.
My family consists of my parents, Gil and Kelly Ethridge. They have been married for 29 years and are a wonderful example for me to follow as I watch them make decisions step-by-step and hand-in-hand together as one. 

Starting off the siblings is my sister, Deanna (34). She is married to her wonderful husband of almost 10 years, Deyan, and they have three children, Simeon (7), Esther (5), and Kaloyana (9 months).

Next is my brother, Tyler (29). He currently lives in Winnipeg along with Deanna. He is in a relationship with a beautiful, sweet woman named Amy and they have been together for about five or six years.

After Tyler is my other brother, Jordan (26). He is currently going to BMMS (Bethel Ministry School for Students) in California. He has been there for two years and will start his third and final year in September 2011.

Following Jordan is my sister, Courtney (22). She is married to her husband of two years, Jeremiah, and they have a daughter named Eden (11 months). They currently reside in Connecticut and Jeremiah is a Diving Instructor with the United States Navy.

My sister Maddie (19) currently lives in Halifax, Nova Scotia. She moved there almost two months ago in order to be closer to her boyfriend, Nathan, and find a better job. She is now working as an Executive Assistant at a bank and she loves being there.

Of course, then there’s me. I am 16 going on 17 and I, obviously, am a grade 11 student at KVHS. I am currently working at Dairy Queen and have been for two years. After high school, I plan to work towards becoming a midwife and youth pastor. I also plan to get married, have kids, and be successful in my career. 





 Well, for many years, this was our family.... 



Shortly after Courtney and Jeremiah's wedding, we got the news this little one was joining our family. 



And two months after Eden came, Kaloyana joined us.

School Project

Well, I haven't posted in a while. I don't seem to be very good at keeping up with the posts... oops ;) 

This is actually for a school project for my writing class. I had to choose from a bunch of different things to do and I chose to do a blog. Since I already have a blog, I asked my teacher if it would be alright for me to post on here (which would also give me an excuse to update my blog!). She readily agreed. 

I then had to choose one topic to write four posts on. I had a word limit of 200 words but that quickly changed to no limit since I always want to write more. (sorry and thanks for letting me go over, Mrs. Mawer!!)

Hope you guys enjoy the posts. The topic I chose was family :)

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Learning more about myself.

Each and everyday, I am now learning more about myself. How I act. How I think. How I feel. There are things about me that I like, things I love, and things I know I need to say goodbye to. Does anyone know how hard that is?
Even though it's not good things to keep with me, they have been a part of me. However, as much as I try to get rid of the bad... I feel like they keep coming and hitting me. I know this is not who I am. I know this is not the person I want to be. I just need to really trust God with the things that I know I can't do by myself.

I most definitely am struggling with some things right now.

Can I just state for the record... I don't like hate drama. It's stupid and pointless and that's not what people need. People need love. People need kindness.
Love one another. Be true in and of yourself. Love others as Christ loves you.
Do unto others, as you'd like them to do unto you.